If you recommend me a guy and I end up marrying him, I’ll pay you $100k. I’m a very weird person. It hasn’t been hard to find people to date, or men willing to marry me, but ‘people I want to marry’ is a vanishingly small group.i know everyone thinks they’re weird but some of us are actually weird and I think I’m probably one of those based on the number of times people have said ‘aella should not be considered representative of anything’I’d like a man who’s fully committed to polyamory (~3% of the population) with space for a primary partner, and with ominous sexuality (~10% of men), who’s in a similar enough wealth tier to me that I don’t have to financially support him, who wants kids, and who’s fully self accepting.(Other things would be nice like similar intelligence levels, similar political values, similar ages, similar BMIs, but I’m already pushing my luck)I notice that I feel excitement about dates mostly when the guy is high status in some field, so while I in theory am open to guys who aren’t high status, in practice I seem to not actually go on dates with them. I want to need to try to impress someone. It doesn’t feel sexy to go on a date where he automatically views me as a catch. I’m aware the man I want falls into a pretty tiny slice of the population. I might be able to be happy with someone outside my range, but if so I am not wise enough to know which of my desires are ones I can compromise on. It sounds cool to be compatible with a wider range of people, but I am not that cool.So, if you know anybody who might be what I’m looking for, send them my way! (I assume you already know enough relevant facts about me, but for additional logistics I’m 33 and live in the Bay Area)The person you recommend has to be someone I haven’t already had meaningful interaction with, or at least not enough that I have already considered them as a partner. You have to recommend them explicitly for the purpose of the bounty; casual recommendations made otherwise don’t co